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The traditional treatment of psychosexual problems is often long and very generic. In recent years there has been a lot of development in the field of sexuality. The time has come for new solutions to be applied to these problems. Judgment-free therapy without embarrassment.

People can be content with who they are. Be happy through self-acceptance!

Research (Kedde, 2012) has shown that 27% of women and 19% of men experience a limitation or difficulty in sexual activity. It is thought that at least two-thirds of these have a psychological cause.

Slowly, thanks to, among other things, the arrival of 50 Shades of Gray, a more open attitude towards sex has arisen. The sexual norm is constantly changing. Sexuality has been experienced more openly since the 1960s and in the last decades more diverse expressions and preferences have been experienced. Under the influence of emancipation and also globalization, this is more and more accepted and being fought for. People experiment and explore their sexuality more than ever. It’s a stark contrast when you cannot be as open and/or free about your own sexuality, for whatever reason. The reverse side of current developments is that new types of sexual dysfunctions and fears arise. Awareness of the openness, possibilities and ideal sexual images around it means that sexual trust can reach a low point with problems such as erectile dysfunction, anorgasmia, vaginism, fear of failure, shame and problems with intimacy.

The fear of rejection and condemnation prevents people from asking for help. This should not be happening in this age and time!

Sex and sexuality are a normal part of adult life!

This statement seems obvious, but for many people their feelings about sex and sexuality are the cause of their problem. The following reasons can be identified for this:

  • previous experiences;
  • the learned idea that being sexual is wrong;
  • the feeling that your sexual taste is abnormal;
  • not being able to talk openly about sex;
  • experiencing high levels of anxiety when sex is being talked about or if it is shown on TV, for example.

Sex, intimacy and affection are just as important as food and water when it comes to basic human needs. Not being able to express it is very harmful to physical and emotional health.

In case of a sexual dysfunction (or sexual disturbance or sexual disorder) there are problems with desire, excitement or orgasm, whether or not caused by pain. We distinguish:

Problems with the desire:

  • too little desire;
  • difference between partners in the amount of desire;
  • strong reluctance to touch and to make love;
  • problems with intimacy.

Pain during sex:

  • pain during the intercourse without a clear physical cause. Sometimes this can lead to the situation that intercourse is no longer possible;
  • pain during the intercourse due to a physical disorder (e.g. rheumatism).

Problems with arousal:

  • erection problems;
  • too little lubrication for the woman.

Orgasm problems:

  • not being able to experience an orgasm;
  • having a premature orgasm.

Problems with the acceptance and/or condemnation of gender diversity or other sexual experience.

From sex addiction to phobias, from intimacy to open relationships and everything in between, sex and intimacy can be a major source of anxiety. There are problems with wanting too much sex, not wanting at all, fear of failure, pain, inability to orgasm, premature ejaculation, lack of sexual self-confidence, physical problems and fetishes. Sexual dysfunctions can manifest at any time in a person’s adult life, often seemingly out of the blue and the result can be catastrophic for a relationship and the individual perception of oneself.

Even if the cause is physical and treated by a doctor, the psychological impact can be enormous. We can help you to process that change and regain your sexual self-confidence. If the cause is psychological in nature, that cause can be treated, where the core problem is addressed and any associated fears are eliminated.

You may picture swinging pocket watches when you think of hypnosis, but hypnosis is an established and researched treatment method (Damasio, A.R., 2000). Before using MRI scans and EEGs, it was argued that hypnosis would never be scientifically testable. This is because through the use of suggestion the tests would be influenced and therefore there would always be a placebo effect. The difference in trance state between someone under hypnosis and someone who is not, is no longer questioned. The various trance depths are also easily measurable (Damasio, A.R., 2000).

As an alternative to trying to resolve a sexual dysfunction in a rational, logical way, hypnosis can be used to make sustainable changes possible at an unconscious level. Hypnosis can be used to treat the many causes of psychosexual problems. For good or bad, where the mind goes the body follows. Hypnosis can help you do this in a positive way, overcome traumas of the past, change difficult beliefs and get in touch with your body and sexuality again.

Hell yes. In fact, you were under hypnosis many times. Hypnosis by others but also hypnosis by yourself. Hypnosis is nothing more than circumventing the critical factor and ending up in the field of selective thinking. A mind-set, the way you look at the world. How you see something where the facts tell something else.

Take someone who is scared to death for the small cosy Dutch house spider. Critical thinking knows perfectly well that this creature is not a murderous monster with 8 eyes. Yet, according to a British study, half of the women and ten percent of the men have a fear of spiders to a greater or lesser degree (Keer, K. van, 2001). This is no more than a negative form of self-hypnosis in which one avoids critical thinking, and in this way makes something small into something very big.

Believing in a lucky four-leaf clover or every other talisman is also a form of self-hypnosis. A particularly effective and pleasantly positive one. It is magic, it is thought power. The point is that you can choose what you think. Hypnosis can help you with this.

Our brain can do everything. Positively and negatively. A hypnotist induces a state of being where you are receptive to suggestion. This way you can replace your problem with a solution.

Absolutely. As always. Everyone has positive and negative belief systems. A child who does not know much about reasonable thinking can´t even do without faith. Positive believing is the beginning of every form of trust. From that insight, there is nothing real about thinking from the basis of fears. Based on fears, there are obstructing beliefs that you have come to see as normal. Purely because our reptilian brain is programmed to focus on danger and negative belief systems are conditioned.

Through hypnosis you change your focus, your mind-set and change your life.

  • the sexual history and the identification of problems
  • overcoming shyness and identifying sexual misconceptions
  • explaining to and ‘retraining’ the client
  • working on self-acceptance
  • helping to deal with a judgmental environment

Do not forget to consult your doctor first in order to rule out medical reasons before trying the above solutions. Changes in libido, vaginal lubrication, new pains and erectile dysfunction should always be first checked by your doctor to rule out a physical cause. Menopause, diabetes, thyroid problems and serious illnesses can be the cause of sexual dysfunctions and should be investigated first. Worries about your health can also be a cause of sexual dysfunction. Obtaining security about your health is a great way to start!

Your brain is your most powerful sexual organ

It is the source of the most amazing, intriguing, sexual intimate memories and experiences. Unfortunately, it can also be the source that stagnates these processes. Fear and stress in any form can cause all sorts of problems within our perception of sexuality and relationships.